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There was less time just bumping into people. You could interact with people on social media or by text, but it wasn’t this kind of casual, water-cooler hanging out, or just hanging out at a party and someone happened to tell you something. You get out a lot of information, social information, about other people in those kind of settings. How do you modulate between staying in reality and not denying everything that’s happened? And also keep your sense of humor and be able to introduce new, interesting things to your conversations.Īnd during the lockdowns, we didn’t have the general social gossip that you have when you’re just hanging out with people.

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I think many of our conversations were either talking about personal trauma and life-changing events that were super, super heavy or wanting to divert ourselves into talking about TV shows and whatnot. “How do you modulate between staying in reality and not denying everything that’s happened?” I think the short answer to that question is yes, I think so!īut back to the question about conversation subjects, I think one of the things that happened during the pandemic is that we needed to modulate and adjust our level of intimacy with face-to-face and being either seen way more than we were used to, or way less than we’re used to. Does this happen with conversations, too? Like maybe my editor who can only talk about Hacks is doing so because it’s a “safe” topic? So we modulate and mimic to make the people we’re interacting with and ourselves feel at ease. And that is, you know, creating dopamine and creating oxytocin - all the hormones that help us feel good and to bond with each other. When you’re with a close friend or a romantic partner or a child you’re taking care of, you’ll find that you’re actually breathing in synchrony, you’re moving in synchrony, your vocal patterns and your gestures are moving in synchrony. So it’s a positive thing when we look at each other! There’s even a recent study that showed that looking at your own face and recognizing other people’s faces can create a dopamine hit. For instance, babies, when they first come out of the womb, will orient toward the face of the mother - they prefer to look at a human face than anything else.

I think that it’s definitely related to us being a social species, and needing bonds and to be in groups. We also do this to modulate our own emotions. We rely on face-to-face feedback for ways in which to regulate our emotions to gauge how we’re feeling, and to get feedback from other people to let us know we’re okay. That if someone likes you, they begin to mimic your expressions and mannerisms. And we mirror and reflect our facial expressions. As we’re talking, we tend to mirror their gestures, we modulate our voices in synchrony. I didn’t even have a TV before the pandemic! I totally relate to it.īut there’s a thing called social mimicry, which is what we do when we’re face to face with people. So I can definitely relate to the whole TV thing. So, about my editor and how she can’t stop talking about Hacks. If there’s someone to talk about the effects of spending a year talking to each other over Zoom or FaceTime, how that’s changed our real-life interactions, and whether only talking about Hacks with strangers is normal, it’s Well. Well is in the midst of writing a book about our reflections, and is an expert on how we mirror each other in conversations. I spoke to Tara Well, a psychology professor at Barnard College who specializes in perception and cognition. And now we’re all so bad at it.Īnd it’s not just small talk but all our social interactions.

Think about it: Small talk was already, for many of us, dreadful. And we’ve spent an entire year and a half not practicing those skills. In every single face-to-face conversation, we’re unconsciously calibrating and gauging our behaviors to make other people and ourselves feel at ease. It’s not just the face-to-face meetings that the pandemic eliminated, but the behaviors that go along with it. Lockdowns and work-from-home protocols have completely overhauled the way we interact.

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